08 April 2011

let's talk about things

Super attractive screencap face, I know. Also, I apologize for the scrappy  lighting, it was the first and only time I filmed in non-natural lighting sooooooo. I was a little nervous at first as you can tell because I don't want to misspeak but bear with me.

I was reluctant to make a video on feminism (so it's not completely about that) because it's kind of a constant learning process -- my view and knowledge of it's history and many branches expands and changes every day, so if I were to try to discuss feminism in one video it'd instantly become dated because my view has changed a little bit. So I'm not going to be talking about feminism as a political theory until I feel more confident in it. Besides, this is a fashion blog first and foremost. Right now, I just wanna know about YOU and what fashion makes YOU feel.

 I've already gotten a bunch of wonderful and poignant responses through email and on the youtube page but it is only right to post the video here too. Hopefully after watching this you'd like to leave a comment here discussing your relationship to fashion -- in my next video I'll break it down into more specific questions because the private response was so good -- but ummm yeah. This was primarily directed to my female readers because it deals with makeup and things that are typically feminine but the same questions can be applied to others when you replace makeup with something overtly male. Activities or objects that represent gender ideals like makeup and 'manly' things like sports (since it's male dominated?) do you actively participate in them and would you if you weren't male/female/non-binary/genderqueer? Why, do you suppose?

These are topics I think about all the time, and I've filled up a bunch of journals delving into my relationship with it all but I just wanna see what you guys make of it all. :)


Frida said...

I think fashion makes me feel a bit diffrent, because where I live a lot of people don't care about fashion. Or maybe they care but they don't dress "special" but just try to as "normal" as possible. I love fashion, but it's not like I am like "oh I have to follow theese trend and I can't wear that cuz' that's not in" or something. But I like to experimenting with my style... a lot

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Claire said...

That was a really excellent video. What you mentioned is really relevant to me: I'm a fourteen year old at an all girl high school so I'm surrounded by all different girls - many of whom wear so much make-up etc. I always thought that, when people start to hate and loathe themselves, then it's no wonder that they hate other people. Insecurity is really awful, but what would we be without that knowledge that we're not perfect? Utopian society or complete anarchy...?

Fashion is something that dictates what people wear - but it's subjective as well; kind of undefinable. Which is good, because who wants everything to be simple and spoon fed to them?

PS I love your glasses.

the visual jerbil said...

This video completely resonated with me. I'm the same way with makeup, I first started wearing make up to cover my acne and it eventually evolved into a love of colour and experimentation.

Same thing happened with fashion, it's part for vanity/wanting to feel better about myself but on the other hand it's just SO MUCH FUN. I can't decide if it's for good or evil but all I know is that excited feeling I get when I put something together, or how happy it is to sprinkle my day with colour/sparkles/shapes. I probably couldn't give it up if I tried.

Lastly, I frequently wonder about the money spent. I wonder if every fashion lover gave away just half of the money they spend on clothes how much social change would come about. Or I wonder about the chemicals that go into make up and if its worth it. Again, I try to push this aside because I have so much fun with it but it's been a nagging thought of mine that I can't seem to figure out.

AshleyDoll said...

I'm *really* glad that you know about things like "genderqueer" and "binarism"! It's something I really care about, and it makes me happy that the word is spreading--even if it's happening slowly. I happen to be pansexual, or just sexual as I like to say, and people don't understand why I don't just call myself bisexual. But I'm happy to explain gender-queerness and get the word out! I have actually been attracted to trans and gender-queer people, and although it confuses me even sometimes, I just accept them for who they are.
My friend Alice Bee is a feminist writer, and it you want to check out her blog: http://burstmarket.blogspot.com

Roma said...

Fashion was a way out for me.
I have a really quriky personality that isn't really translated well into the epicenter of intelligence (my name for the neadrothol freshmen I am stuck with for three freaking years.) I couldn't honestly find away to feel comfortable in the clothing I was wearing, before fashion i was a product. i loved abercrombie and wore uggs. Once I started with fashion for the first time in my life I finally felt accepted. I never really felt that before because were i come different is bad. I can really relate to most of what you said. People are buying this kind of stuff to make them feel accepted. Honestly I think fashion has become really important in shaping my personality. I sort of had a style intervention and I am kind of glad. It also makes me wonder what my brain did that automatically did a somersalt. weird huh?

bug said...

I go to an all girls Catholic high school, so the environment is very conservative and most girls wear J. Crew type outfits, high waisted skirts, etc. when we don't have to wear our uniform. On regular school days when we all put on the ugly plaid skirt, most people don't wear makeup or care about their hair style and so on. I think it's kind of interesting to think more about because I think that it shows that teenage girls really do dress for guys to look at them, for the most part. People actually talk about how since it's all girls, they don't care, which I think is really sad. I think that people should dress a certain way because it's what makes them happy and because they feel beautiful that way, not because they think some guy will like it. But obviously my views aren't the norm there, and I can't wait to leave haha. ;)

I loved your video by the way, and I think you touched on a lot of important points. I think your blog is great and I agree with a lot of the stuff you're saying. Your posts encouraged me to read Girl Power, and so far I'm really enjoying the novel. Thanks for all you're doing. :)

Anonymous said...

Before I turned 18 I never touched make up. My mom used to do make up for teenage girls on local runways and she always told me I didn't need make up because I was pretty without it. I truly hated the stuff and judged the people who wore it. I recently came back from 6 months abroad and EVERYONE wore makeup. I couldn't believe that some people wouldn't leave their house to walk the dog without make up and heels. I felt like something was wrong with me because I didn't wear any, and so I started experimenting.I love make up, I wear it everyday, I buy all different brands (we have a UD obsession in common) and now I can't leave the house without it. I feel naked, and unfortunately, unpretty ( a nice way of saying ugly)without it. I don't regret falling into the make up thing,I like studying new styles and techniques, and when I walk out with a beautiful flawless face I feel accomplished. Is that sad?maybe. and maybe i'll kick the habit soon, who knows?But i appreciated you delving into this subject area.

greenmochi said...

I found your video really really interesting. It sparked a few thoughts in me, but it's hard to really I'm not a huge make up lover and I don't depend on it, though I used to wear heavy eyeliner everyday. I've stopped wearing it daily though because I figured I don't want massive baggage under my eyes when I age. I wore heavy raccoon eyeliner every day because of a very stupid reason. I thought to myself, all us asian girls look alike don't we? I wanted to be less plain; I wanted to look weird. I dunno.

As for fashion, I pretty much grew up as a tomboy. It never occurred to me that girlish fashionable, cute things would be something I'd want to invest in. I didn't care because I knew it really didn't make a difference, but then I realized I have more of a boyish figure(broad shoulders, small chest, long face, a bit taller than girls around here). I realized that if slowly attempted to upgrade my wardrobe, I'd feel more confident about myself and I'd look more presentable to the world. I'm 20 years old, and aside from the rare/occasional dressing up, I want to feel good about myself all the time so this is why I'm suddenly so drawn in by fashion. I know it's kind of vain to have interest in material items, but it's true on days you dress fine/nice you feel more confident and feel like you can accomplish more than on days where you just slap on something random and feel ugly.

Thanks for making this video! I'm glad I watched it. It really made me realize things that were obvious, but not obvious enough for me to see. :c


Ria said...

Definitely guilty of buying things to make myself feel better. I could go without reading fashion magazines. I get a lot in the mail free and I'll glance through them occasionally but I wouldn't say I read them. I'm kind of a magazine hoarder unfortunately. When I do look at mags, they don't make me feel bad about myself because I'm so different than what's protrayed in them (i.e. not a white, long sily haired beauty) I just don't feel like they're talking to me. I'm glad I managed to avoid a inferiority complex from not looking like what's portrayed in the magazines I did read when I was younger. They DO however make me want to buy makeup, I don't know what it is about a magazine but if I see it in an ad or a feature I want it. I don't even wear all the makeup I have. Lately I've been feeling like a mega consumer, all I wanna do is buy buy buy and I'm unhappy if I'm unable to buy. That's really terrible, especially when I should be focusing my attentions on bills and medical bills. Being a blogger/living in Miami has definitely made it worse. Going to different events and taking outfit posts, I'm CONSTANTLY thinking about the fact that I haven't had a substantial amount of new clothes in quite some time because I'm not in the same place financially that I was just 3 years ago.

My response has been kind of all over the place but I'm trying to get this out before I lose it again, last time I tried to comment on this video on youtube, firefox crashed when I was ready to submit. -_-

Jolien said...

fashion to me go's way back to my chilhood becuase as a litlle kid i always felt the need to dress up or to dress my dolls.

it always made me happy and now it still does i feel like everyday should be an celabration(worst english ever) and by dressing up it helps me feel gorgeos and happy whit myself


Madeleine said...

Your video gave me alot to think about. I never really reflected about that before, but my relationship to fashion..well, I love to be diffrent. But not diffrent from anyone else, just diffrent from the people I hang out with. They all love black and dark, so instead, I turned out to be more colorful and bright.

I think also, I love fashion, because it makes people happy. I tend to get that comment alot, that my clothes make them happy, that the colors I have, the patterns is interesting and something to talk about. I have never opened a fashion magazine, but I do follow a few fashion blogs.

What about make-up then. I never use it, if not its on special occasions, like a party. I do though use nail polish, but I just see those as a part of my clothes and change it with the color of my clothes.

Dahl said...

First thing, your glasses are awesome.

I find your video really interesting and it brings up some pretty deep questions that I often ponder myself. I love fashion and make-up but there are so many things associated with the two that don't agree with my feminist/moral views. I first became interested in fashion when I read a few magazines, started checking out blogs, and began appreciating those people who dressed outside the norm. When I was in 4th and 5th grades I was a total nerd. I wanted to dress like the popular, cool girls but i didn't know how. Sadly, when middle school started I came under the false impression that abercrombie and uggs=super fashionable. Gladly I've come to realize quite the opposite, but it still pains me to see those girls at school who either don't care enough to wear anything besides comfortable sweatpants + Pink sweatshirts, or people who wear those brands because they think they'd be "uncool" if they didn't.
I really relate to Roma's comment.

Make-up is a little different for me. I started using it because I thought it was fun to apply and I liked playing with different styles and colors. It was like painting your face. Then I started using makeup because I thought it was what boys like, that it made me pretty. Make-up does make you "prettier," but does it make you less yourself? Those people who need make-up just to walk out the door, just to get up in the morning obviously need it to feel complete, so who are they when they aren't wearing make-up? I think make-up is a fine mode of self-expression, a fun hobby, an easy way to draw on yourself if you don't want to look like a three year old, but it can certainly go too far (much like fashion can). Style, feminist views, everything about people constantly changes, so you can pinpoint a single line where it's like "okay, that much make-up is over the top" or "that girl has an unhealthy relationship with make-up" etc. I'm not making much sense here...but I think it's up to you to call the shots on how far is too far in terms of make-up, loving fashion, and still staying true to yourself.

Dahl said...

oh dear...i just saw how ridiculously long that comment was...and it doesn't even make sense! I'm sorry.

Cara said...

I only use two types of make up but I use them on a daily basis; foundation and mascara. I feel like crap most of the time when I go out without foundation on because I feel really insecure about my cheeks because they are slightly pink and I blush WAY too often. I just use mascara to make my eyelashes look longer. I hate the way that I get stereotyped in school (all girl catholic uniform school) when I wear alot of mascara. Or when (which is everyday) I backcomb my hair.
You made me think alot of that actually. I wouldn't like myself at all if I had all the things that I wanted. My biggest fears are Katy Perry, little kids and rich people so it just wouldn't work out. I'm not certain but I would probadly get slightly big-headed aswell.
I also noticed that if I wear shocking red lipstick or something but with a casual-ish outfit, I get alot of "that's just too much" comments from strangers on the street.
(p.s your make up is very very lovely in the video) x

modernfoppery said...

What a great video. I never wore makeup until after I graduated from college and entered a Ph.D. program - I've always looked a bit young, and it was a way to make myself look older and more polished. Also, honestly, I just love wearing interesting colors. (Your video has persuaded me to buy the orange lipstick I keep ogling in CVS!)

For me, it's fashion, not makeup, that conflicts with feminism. I've stopped reading fashion magazines because, although I love the editorials, I come away feeling that the magazines are drawing an implicit (and unflattering) comparison between my body and the bodies of the models. I was anorexic for my entire adolescence, and I'm still so angry that women are told over and over how ugly they are.

I guess I'm more attached to the idea of "personal style" than I am to the fashion industry, but even "personal style" is not fully democratic. The Internet makes us believe that style is accessible to everyone, but who's going to be treated well in Bergdorf Goodman - Jane Aldridge in Prada, or a middle-class teenager in her latest thrift-store purchase?

hitchhiked said...

Last year, I went through a period where I wore makeup every other day. It started out just as another form of self-expression-- kind of like putting on a tattoo/body art that you can adapt to your mood and then later wipe off. But something unexpected happened. Society's demands bore down on me; my insecurities took over. I started wearing makeup less for self-expression and more to, as you describe in your video, "look better." And the more often I did that, the less good putting on makeup made me feel. At some point, my made-up face started to feel like a mask to me, something separate from and unrelated to myself. So I cut back on wearing makeup.

These days, I only wear it for fun and when I want to express something. And when I do wear it, I tend to go all-out. I wear bright or dramatic colors and glitter. The whole concept of a "no-makeup makeup look" just seems wasteful. If it's so important to you to look like you're not wearing makeup, you might as well... not wear makeup.

This is a great topic, by the way. The role of makeup and fashion in people's lives, from a consumerist aspect, is a pretty big thing that's a part of many people's everyday lives and yet it doesn't get discussed all that much (at least, not makeup). Must be because of the societal conditioning you talked about in your video. Kudos to you for starting a discussion about it.

hitchhiked said...

Oh yeah, thought of something else to add:

On your tumblr, you posted a quote by Rei Kawakubo that said something to the effect of, "Clothes don't have to make you look better. Clothes do not need to represent conventional beauty." (I know I'm botching the quote but I'm in a hurry and can't look it up again right now).

I was just thinking, that applies to makeup as well. We don't need to use makeup to make ourselves look more conventionally pretty, or even 'better.' We are free to wear makeup any way we want, which includes making ourselves look like twisted old hags or monsters, if that's the mood/story we want to convey. Makeup, like fashion, can be restrictive and it can be liberating. It all depends on what you choose to take from it, and how you choose to apply all the influences about it from the outside world to your own life.

(I apologize that these are so long!)

Lydia said...

I feel like I have so much to say in response to this and I hope I remember it all!

I was lucky enough to grow up with a mother who told me over and over how beautiful I was, and made me truly feel good about myself. My mother loves make-up, and when I was growing up, made it seem like make-up was just for fun. She never made it out like she thought SHE needed to wear it, and never made me feel like I needed to wear it, but that we could choose to, and it was fun. She always wore red lipstick, called it her "red lips," and we could never go anywhere until she'd put her "red lips on." But she made it almost a game, laughed at herself, and I never equated make-up as something anybody "needed" until I was way older. When I got into make-up as a teenager, it was also about fun and experimenting with color. My mom worked at a make-up counter when I was a teenager, and I had so much freaking make-up. Like an insane amount. Once I decided I was going to wear a different color lipstick every day, but I got tired of it way before I'd gone through all my colors.

Today I rarely wear make-up. I'm 29, almost 30. I still have a lot of it, and can play around whenever I want, but I truly like how I look without it better. I think I look weird with make-up on. I wear mascara most days, but I don't have to. I wear blush a lot in the winter, because I feel pale, but if I didn't, I'd still feel ok. In the summer, I wear almost nothing, save for the mascara. I like my face.

My first encounter with "needing" to wear make-up was a friend whose mother would tell her she needed to put make-up on, and gave her a complex.

I feel like I'm kinda all over the place here, but bear with me. I just have so many thoughts here.

I read fashion magazines, and a lot of the mainstream ones. At one point I had subscriptions to nearly all of them. Real people inspire me way more than magazines do, but I do get inspiration from the magazines too. I see pictures of crazy runway make-up that I want to wear to the grocery store, and occasional fashion editorials that are really well-done. But you can't look at the girls in those magazines as some kind of standard. They're 16, and wearing a lot of make-up, and super-expensive high fashion, and they're being photographed by renowned photogs, and they're edited. I'm almost 30, and wearing no make-up, and wearing shit I found at a thrift store, and I'm being photographed by my boyfriend and editing my pics on the free version of Picnik.

Am I self-conscious and insecure? Sure. Do I look at skinny, gorgeous models and occasionally want to puke? All the time. I have pretty big hips and fat under my chin, and saddlebags. But for me, putting on make-up or fun, crazy clothes still feels like it did when I was nine and playing dress up and laughing with my mom about putting our red lips on. It's fun. It's never about making myself feel better or not feeling good enough without it. It's never about feeling like I NEED to look a certain way. Those thoughts will drive you crazy.

Lastly, I think it's perfectly fine to be a feminist and like how you look in lipstick better than how you look without it. So what if it makes you feel good? So what if it's shallow or vain? People have been smearing stuff on their faces for centuries for aesthetic reasons. As long as you don't take it too seriously or let it define you, I don't see the big deal.

Oh, and I've been using Proactiv for like 10 years now, and it is the only thing that works for me!

Alice said...

I saw a quote the other day that said "You don't live to find yourself, you live to create yourself." Which, yes, sounds a bit cliched; however, I really feel there is more truth in this than the a-typical "finding." As far as how you physically appear goes. I was never one to really look at fashion magazines, I've occasionally glanced through them, but I really never found my place in their pages.

Though, when it comes to make up I don't go out into public without it. I really don't wear much, just liquid, standard, black eyeliner, and some shade of red lipstick. The occasional glitter, here, and there. I don't feel that I do it for other people's opinions quite as much as I do it for myself. It's nothing too heavy, as stated. Just some black liner on the upper, and red on my mouth. But, besides the lipstick, I feel like the eyeliner is more myself.

Of course we've all gotten our ideas for our looks through photos of circa (insert whatever period) here. But, I really feel that the personal preference of you deciding "Okay, I'll take this bit from this period, and this bit from that, and this from this cool chick I saw walking last week," is a bit more unique, in the sense that you're deciding the likes, dislikes, and essentially the shots.

I mean, I think feminism can be both girl-y, and tom-boy.I read one poster that really hits the nail on the head which stated "Feminism: Girls getting raped is uncool on all standards. Whether you're wearing slutty clothes, or completely covered. No means no. Rape is uncool no matter who it is; We love our sluts." Which, on a deeper lever, I think really sums it up.

Very cool video.
Have a good one!


Anonymous said...

I’m a seventeen year old girl-woman and I’ve never been sure about fashion being ‘confidence building’ (Ah high-school Personal/Social Development) as I think it takes independence to create something of your own in the first place. That said, I used to dress absurdly during that same high-school period to feel safe being different and I probably have just as odd taste now to others but it just feels right in a vain way. I love fashion for the societal theatre that it is, whether to feel independent or completely socialised into our society’s idea of beauty as a female. When I think of the relationships and attachments we make to our image and its manipulation I can only really describe it as intensely human, which I don’t think helps all that much but in the sense it’s very artificial and constructed, yet still creative, subjective and sensory. And so, I quiver with delight at the names of lipsticks which perfectly connect my experiences to a simple colour. :) I also ove- analyse everything which is !fun! for all the pretty ideas in magazines.

Erin said...

I have a strange relationship with fashion. I'm 13, in middle school, and surrounded by people who think that they're better than the rest of us because they can pile on the most eyeliner and buy the tallest Ugg boots. I'm not like that, nor are my friends. I look very different from the rest of the people at my school. I'm one of around two girls with short-short hair. I buy nice, different things from stores that most people have never heard of. Some people like my style, others think that I'm just that quiet weird girl. Which I honestly am. On the OUTSIDE.

The fashion/beauty industry HAS made me feel inferior before. I've had times where I look at a magazine and think, "Why can't I have that? Why can't I look like her?" It's rare, but it happens.

Thanks for all of your awesome posts. Oh, and you ARE cool.


Imogen said...

I totally agree with what you said.I have fashion junkie friends that just think of buying constantly and I even catch myself doing that. And I love the fashion industry but I am rather inspired by people I know (including you). It makes me feel more worthy when I can be myself and dress differently from others. Some people may think I'm weird or the blogs I follow are weird but I think it's because they're scared, in a way, to be different from the norm.Personally, I think it's great to be yourself and not follow every single trend and fashion magazine cause that's what makes you who you are: a person with a really nice personality.

Phoebedeirdra said...

Alot of what you said in that video is so true for me. Theres someone in my head who I just 'want to be' fashion-wise; and no, that person isnt one designer or one other person, but she is something that I am not. i like to think that my ideal wardrobe is just the clothing I like best, but really, it is constructed out of how I want people to see me. And thats when, i feel, fashion stabs me in the back- when it becomes all about appearance in the sense that its all about your image as its interperated by others. And I dont just mean apsiring to conventinal beauty- but wanting them to see you as something particular, a label. And sadly, wanting people to see you as 'the girl wearing outrageous, strange clothing' and wanting them to see you as conventionally beautiful are in essence the same thing. They are both dressing to please- to meet a certain bar, and earn a certain label. I know I have shopped and dressed this way before. i am quite positive we all have. anyway... thanks for your video, it was excellent.

Elena es una lovecat said...

First of all I must say that I love this video. I really enjoy thinking about fashion and it's relationship with we the women, feminism and... capitalism. I think that fashion can relate to both of them, and what I aim is not to think in the industry or adapting to the society when dressing. I like to dress the way I feel in that exactly moment.

I have asked myself many times wether I wear beautiful dresses, shorts or skirts because I liked them or because guys liked them. And I hate it. I hate thinking that I wear clothes to make me feel secure, because feminism isn't about that, it is about feeling good in your own skin. All things said, it is pretty difficult to achieve such a high self-esteem.
Hopefully, mine is increasing bit by bit and now I dare to wear different outfits, as I find it really boring to dress exactly like everybody else.

When it comes to make-up, it is a bit different to me. I'm not used to wear it to school, mainly because I don't have enough time. I only wear it on weekends, when I go out with friends, but it also depends on my outfit and on how I want to look like that day. Sometimes I make-up myself to look like a junkie, and sometimes to look like a doll. And other times, I just am not comfortable with any make-up on. Also, I only paint my eyes, lips and sometimes my eyebrows, I dislike hidding my face or giving the impression I have a perfect cutis when it's not true.

I have so much more to say! I hope you 'll talk more about this stuff, I really enjoy knowing other people's opinion :)

PS Forgive my lack of vocabulary, I have repeated so many times words like "different" or "make-up" that is boring! Oh, and I'm also sorry that my opinion has taken that long, I haven't even realised!

Vanessa said...

I've also had these thoughts especially when I'm buying fashion magazines. As a feminist it's a struggle to figure out thoughts towards fashion or makeup but I just think in the end, if you're doing it for yourself and not for someone else then it's fine to adore makeup or fashion and still stick to the heart of feminism.

Arabelle said...

thank you so so much for spending the time to leave your comments on this post! all of your comments are amazing. ♥

sarianne said...

I think fashion is just a fun thing, sometimes it defines me but usually appearances is something to play with i think. Same with make up. I don't wear a lot of make up (in winter i wear foundation) but majority of the time its just mascara and lipstick if i can be bothered but i don't think i would buy it because i think it would change me, it would be a "oh i like this colour, l lets do it". but yeah i kind of get that guilt thing about fashion magazines, its kind of like "i have better things to do with my time" or "there are more important things in the world".
p.s always diggin' the hair

yvette said...

Feminism is about choice. For example, that women should have the choice to marry or to stay single. In this instance, women have every right to choose to wear make up every day. If it makes her feel beautiful and confident, then that's awesome. The only problem is if it's because of society's pressures (real or perceived).

I personally don't wear much make up. Usually I only have mascara and lip gloss. I also don't read fashion magazines. Partly because they're not my fashion style, partly because they offend me. The models are clearly anorexic. They have personal trainers, weight loss specialists, make up artists, hair stylists, $1000s of clothes and on top of all that, they're photoshopped. It annoys me that this is presented as an ideal, and that so many women feel inadequate because of it.

I like your blog a lot! :)

Lana Turner said...

I am 16 and I have never, ever, ever, been happy with the way I look. It's not really something that bothers me anymore because I've felt like it for a long time. I don't do it for compliments, it's the way I honestly feel. I read Vogue, religiously, and it inspires me alot in the way I dress and the things I buy. I'm not rich, but I can afford certain things I want. I mean, I don't buy things just for the sake of it, it has to be something that I'll really use. In my town, it's full of "chavs" so it's difficult to dress how I want to without being laughed at. In the Fashion world it's quite different. I do get looked at for wearing different things rather than following the crowd. As for the makeup thing, I've recently toned down, I used to wear alot of eyeliner, my usual powder and mascara. But now I use a small amount of eyeliner with the usual everything else. I do it because I was worried about wrinkles, and the fact I was getting comments about it and the point that I feel alot better without it, I've started to look around and it's amazing the amount of people who don't actually wear makeup, or alot of it, I wish I was that confident.

I hope this helps(:

Trashy Student said...

I think if i had all the things I wanted, other people, different people would want to be friends with me, because of the image I portray. But in the end, those people have no time for me nmow, yet I'm still the same person. Although fashion shouldn't, it defines you, and people judge you for it, so personally, I look to fashion for a way to not so much improve myself, but to project myself the way I want to be seen by other people, but without having loads of money, that isnt always so easy to do. xx

Anonymous said...

i'm really glad you made this video because i have lots of thougts, feelings and experiences to share. firstly, i got into fashion and clothes because i saw the way my sister dressed and i wanted to dress beautifully too. it really got me down how i would just wear hoodies and jeans and she would be wearing these beautiful outfits so i just went out and bought clothes i liked. since then i have experimented, shopped, found blogs, such as yours, that i constantly return to, began to understand the beauty of editorials in fashion magazines. fashion, or at least my own interpretation of it, the clothes i wear, makes me feel good. and that is why i dont wear jeans and hoodies anymore, why i put thought into my outfits, why i dont think fashion consumerism is wrong. others made points about how it is unhealthy that people wear a&f and uggs but i think that if wearing this stuff makes those people feel good, even if its just because they are fitting in, is that not a good thing? no, not if they are pressured by society to spend $50 on a hoodie that they dont actually want but if they think, hey, you know, when im out with my a&f friends, this makes me feel good, wearing this hoodie makes me feel good, then i dont think its a bad thing.
i have pretty similar views when it comes to make up. i started wearing make up because i hated my face. ouch, but, yes, i wasn't happy with the way i looked. again, the whole ''she's wearing make up to fit in or because she's insecure so it must be unhealthy'' thing is mentioned but what if wearing make up makes her feel beautiful, why is this wrong? sure, i have to take off my make up but im truly glad that i discovered it. wearing make up has made me happier. that, unfortunately, is the somewhat shallow truth. despite its being borne out of vanity, my use of make up has actually evolved into something more creative. i look for really pale foundation and wear dark brown-red eyeliner and try to look kinda creepy/disturbed. i just dont think make up and fashion can be bad. that kinda leads me to my final thought on this whole thing:fashion magazines. i have some issues about size and stuff but this came from a girl in school who was thinner than me. i saw her and was inspired (?) to fast and stuff. not from fashion magazines. we are constantly exposed to unrealistic ideals. the idea that fashion magazines can influence us...i mean, yes, they present thin, white, young girls as ideals but...from my own experience, i feel that it is not fashion magazines that are to blame. i just never felt that pressure. maybe that's just me? i really appreciate being able to vent all these thoughts and stuff so thank you and i love your blog. sorry, my comment isn't, um, the most articulate...:)

Anna said...

I'm so glad I came across your blog today. I've been thinking about a lot of things you said in your blog lately. This video is wonderful.

I'm 25. I hardly wear make-up or read fashion magazines.

I have a style blog and I've been getting into a lot of feminist theories/issues in the academic side of my life. I'm also trying to figure out a connection between feminism and fashion and how I can incorporate both things into my blog along with other "academic" subjects.

I don't get much inspiration from fashion magazines anymore. I always ended up feeling inadequate after reading them so I stopped at a young age. I prefer style blogs much more but lately those too have been making me feel quite inadequate! I realized I follow a lot of bloggers who fit into the fashion industry's standard of beauty and I think those blogs can have the same affect on people as fashion magazines. I've been on the search for blogs that don't fit into society's traditional standards.

At the same time, we don't have many alternatives. I have a tumblr that features images of mostly pictures of white, size 0 women wearing things that I think are great. I try to focus on the clothes, colors, textures, the mood, etc. of the images instead who is modeling them. I have to remind myself that I don't have to look like these women in order to be beautiful. It's a constant struggle. I think you have always ask yourself why? Why do I like this picture? Why am I buying these shoes? Why am putting this make up on? Why do you I feel like shit after reading this magazine? Like you said we are conditioned to be a certain way based on the culture we were born into. It's extremely hard to reverse your thinking. It may battle that last our whole lives.

I love fashion because I think anything is possible within it. It's so much fun.

As for make-up. When I was in middle school I use to never leave the house without it. I felt I was ugly if I didn't have any on. That way of thinking lasted off and on until high school was over. I'm not sure what happened that change my thinking. College maybe? I learned there was more to me than a pretty face. It's been a very slow change. Now I feel sort of ridiculous with a full face on...on a normal week day. I'll have fun with make-up on a night out on the town. I think make-up and fashion should always be fun.

I'm about to graduate though and I'm starting to feel the pressure of fitting into society's standards. In order to get a good job, I feel like I'm going to have wear make-up everyday and change the way the I dress to look "presentable" to my future employer(s). Is it enough that I just recognize what's going on?

This is getting too long. I hope my comment makes sense. I love everyone's comments!

t h e l i n e s h e e t said...

I can't wait to visit the makeup tumblr! I love makeup! It's going to be so good I can tell!

t h e l i n e s h e e t said...

I can't wait to visit the makeup tumblr! I love makeup! It's going to be so good I can tell!

thilde c-a said...

I don't get that many spots so that has never been a problem for me but on a regular basis i worry about not looking good in this or this won't fit me right or I won't suit this because I am quite chubby and small for my age and yeah i think the fashion industry has made that worse for me because all teenage girls worry about their weight at some point but I never expected that i would worry this much because I'm quite a confident person.
Also I bought chanel rouge lipstick just because it was chanel and I thought that on some level I might look like vanessa parady (don't know how to spell her name.)
And finally you are cool besides just because you don't fit the stereotype that is accosiated being 'cool' doesn't mean that you are not cool, cool is an opinion and yeah some people are gonna think that you are not cool but the ones that count will.
Plus I really admire your confidence because I have so many outfits and clothes that I don't wear for fear that some one from my school will see me or people will stare (i am english and we are not attention seekers) so yeah i love fashion too much but it does make me feel down quite a bit x


Anonymous said...

I totally get the points you're making; I don't think it is right that women and girls should feel that they have to wear makeup/ certain clothes just to feel adequate. Personally, I got into makeup just because I love the aesthetic of it, and I actually really enjoy putting it on. If you see it as an art form, or a way to express yourself rather than to improve yourself for others, it can be a positive thing. I'd definitely be sad if I could never put makeup on again, but I try not to let it define me.
By the way, you are *awesome*

Anonymous said...

omg youre awesome. can i marry you.

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